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What you should do if you forget someone’s name

posted by Peter August 30, 2016 0 comments

It will happen.

You’re at a function, a party, a ‘do’ of some kind.

You know, and have met the person you’re with before, and someone else comes along. You’re meant to introduce them, but you can’t for the life of you remember the other’s name.

What do you do?

It is easier to apologize and ask their name again

Well, the easiest thing is to come straight out and say you have forgotten…had a brain fade a senior moment – whatever. So apologies, sorry, “I’ve forgotten your name at the most inappropriate time.”

(Now, there’s a reasonable chance they’ve forgotten your’s too, but there’s no disgrace and a type of liberation in coming right out and admitting it first).

Honesty is the best policy, and you don’t have to fudge anything about it.

Now…if you’re brave or game, there is another trick.

When you go to introduce the person go, “What’s you’re name?”

Invariably they’ll go “Jason” or “Jacqui” or whatever.

To which you reply “Yeh, I know that, I mean your last name.”

Do it with a straight face – and you’ll probably get away with it.

And, while we’re on the subject, how do you remember a person’s name when you’ve just been introduced to them?

As soon as possible, use their name when asking them a question? “What brings you here Jack?”, “What do you think of the [lecture, party, event] so far Beth?”

And, use it again if you can – soon.

Or, if they ask a question first, respond with their name. “Well, Madison…”

That way there’s a lot better chance of locking it into your short term memory – and in the first instance that’s all you need

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